How to Stop Tempting Fate

Stop Speaking of Your Heart's Desires

So what is tempting fate? Have you ever had a strong feeling that something you wanted to happen in your life was on its way but then you told someone and somehow it did not happen, despite having been so positive that it would? Have you ever felt hesitant to say something about a positive expectation, intention or idea because you didn't want to jinx it but you went ahead and said it anyway while dismissing your reservations as superstitious nonsense with thoughts such as "what could go wrong?" The more you believe that you create your reality, the more you are willing to dismiss the superstition that telling someone is tempting fate because you refuse to believe that someone could have so much power over your life to jinx you. Of course, when your expectation does not materialise, you label whoever you told a 'jinxer' or you blame yourself for having tempted fate.

Does Fate Have a Warped Sense of Humour?

Throughout history, humanity has created and clung to superstitions to explain the inexplicable. Even to this day, people throughout the world go to great lengths to prevent being jinxed or to ward off the so-called 'evil eye'. Most superstitions, however, are not based on reason or knowledge. In this case, when something you otherwise expected seems not to happen just because you spoke about it, you would be forgiven for thinking that fate must have some kind of warped sense of humour but the truth is it has nothing to do with tempting fate.

Tempting Fate is Interrupting the Creation Process

There is a very specific reason why verbalizing your expectations or desires may prevent them from happening and the answer does not belong in any book of superstition or jinxes. It is not fate that you are tempting but rather you are interrupting the creation process and so preventing your expectation or desire from manifesting when you speak about it too soon. In ignorance of the creation process, one has little choice but to shoulder all the responsibility on tempting fate and the jinx.

Understanding the Conscious Creation Process

To understand what is happening when you appear to be tempting fate, you must first understand the conscious creation process. This is the process whereby concentrated thought power transmutes energy from its pure potential state (i.e. mind) into energy in its material state (i.e. physical world manifestation) that is in turn attracted to its original corresponding source (i.e. the thinker—you) through the Law of Attraction. This transmutation of mind energy into form requires a certain incubation period experienced as the passage of time. You have to allow for the necessary and uninterrupted passage of time when consciously creating your reality in the physical world. Herein lies the secret on how to stop tempting fate. Uninterrupted time is the key.

Speaking About Something Appears to Tempt Fate

Tempting fate is nothing more than speaking too soon. Indeed, another way of saying "I tempted fate" is "I spoke too soon". We know this from a very young age when we are told to make a wish upon blowing out our birthday candles but to tell no one what we wished for because it will not happen. This is because thought belongs to the Mental Plane while speech belongs to the Physical Plane. As long as that something which you want to experience has not yet appeared in your physical world, it must be left uninterrupted in the Mental and Spiritual Planes where all creation takes place. When you verbalise your intention, you bring it into the Physical Plane without having allowed it the time to fully transform from potential, mind energy to visible, material form.

Speech Disperses Energy

Delivering the energy of your mental image too soon is akin to 'freezing' your desire in a dimension between the Mental and Physical Planes that is not accessible to your physical world senses. Speech disperses concentrated mental energy. The more you speak about it, the more you disperse your thought power's energy and when there is no energy left to disperse, speaking about the very thing that not too long ago you felt certain about, now feels untrue. So how do you stop tempting fate or more accurately, how do you not interfere with the conscious creation process? It's simple really: JUST KEEP QUIET!

To Keep Quiet Means Say Nothing

The only way not to interrupt the creation process and hence stop what appears to be tempting fate, is to keep it private. This means to say nothing to no one—not to your best friend, your partner or even your most trusted confidant. When you talk about it, you release and disperse the previously concentrated energy of your thought power. And verbalising does not only apply only to speech. It includes all sharing, including social media. You do not have to reveal every hope and expectation on Facebook, or summarise your desires on Twitter, or display them on Instagram!

The Expectations of Others

Sharing your expectations or your efforts to create your desires also inadvertently exposes you to other people's expectations and belief (or lack thereof) in what you are saying. This can also create a sense of panic within you because now that you have said it, you feel you have something to prove to others. This in turn breeds attachment and for all the wrong reasons. Attachment to the outcome is not in any way helpful of its own accord when creating your desires, but it becomes even more inhibiting when you are attached to what you want on behalf of other people.

The Envy of Others

Envy is arguably the most destructive emotion on the Physical Plane. Telling others what you are creating for yourself may trigger envy within them, which in turn, may influence your creative process or even stop it altogether because now you have an opposing force to deal with, and the greater the envy, the greater that force. The Golden Verses of Pythagoras, which are his instructions for a life of virtue, instruct us to "avoid doing anything that may provoke envy". Pythagoras did not say "do not envy others" because that goes without saying. He was very specific in saying that it is you that must not provoke envy in others. Heed his words and say nothing.

Whose Reality is It?

Now, since everything is a projection of your consciousness including other people, you may ask how can the expectations or envy of others affect your creation process? There is truth in this but ask yourself who is asking this question? And you are likely to find that it is the personal self—the physical you! But the physical you is as much a projection of consciousness as everybody and everything else, the only difference being that the personal you allows you to have a 3D experience of your consciousness in first-person. So whose projection am I referring to when I say your reality is a projection of your consciousness? And the answer is: your True Self—the mighty I AM.

Were you to fully identify with your True Self then the expectations or envy of others would play no role. But as long as you are having a physical 3D world experience, the chances are that you are identifying more with your personal self than your True or Higher Self. After all, your desires belong to the personal self. You create your reality whether you identify with your Higher Self or not but it is the Higher Self that is always the dreamer and everything in the physical 3D world including the physical you, is the dream. And the more you raise your self-awareness and degree of consciousness towards your superconscious mind, the faster and more effortlessly you will create what you want to experience. The more consciously you apply the power of your mind in the direction of your desires, the closer you come to remember who you truly are. And it is best achieved in silence, so again, keep quiet!

The Necessity of Time

The necessary incubation period in the creation process that we know as time is evident throughout nature. Just like one would never attempt to deliver a baby one month after the time of conception, so you must allow for the necessary time for your conceived idea, intention or thought to manifest and be delivered to you in the physical world. Stop what appears to be tempting fate by giving what you want a chance to be created. Keep it in the Mental and Spiritual Planes of creation until it is ready to come into the Physical Plane.

So how do you know how much time is necessary? Well, that is also quite simple—as much time as it takes for you to start seeing physical manifestations of your intention. Time is not only necessary but is also very helpful. Just imagine the chaos that would ensue if each of your thoughts materialised instantly. When you become grateful for time, you will find all the patience you need.

How to Know What Not to Share

Training yourself to keep quiet about your expectations and good feelings about something you sense is about to happen for you, does not mean never again having a meaningful conversation about your goals or aspirations. Learn to distinguish between what you should and should not share by listening to your intuition. Listen and respect the voice within you that says "don't say it" or "okay enough, don't say any more". Honour it and you'll soon know exactly what to share or not and tempting fate will no longer be up for question.

Keep Your Words a Step Behind Physical Reality

Train yourself to keep it real. This means, make it a habit to only share those things that have physically manifested in your life, and even then, keep your words (i.e. what you say) a step or two behind your physical reality. Do not let your words get ahead of the physical world. Moreover, do not make a big deal out of every little sign of your manifestation coming into form. Avoid the extreme of getting overly-excited when thinking of or sharing something because this too is a way of tempting fate. Even when not telling others, keep everything that happens in perspective and award it its appropriate reaction. Gratitude is not about jumping up and down with excitement. Gratitude is graceful—it is a quiet attitude of grace.

Release the Guilt of Not Sharing

You may initially feel a sense of guilt for not sharing something with a friend, family member or partner because you're so used to saying everything. Just remember, you are not doing so because you do not trust them, nor are you lying. Instead, having understood the conscious creation process and what appears to be tempting fate, you are keeping quiet to give your expectation, idea or intention a chance to take form in the Physical Plane. If the voice within says "don't say it", then don't say it. And when in doubt, keep quiet!

When Manifesting Something with Others

I am often asked what to share or not share when the creation of a desire requires the involvement of other people. Again, I would say listen to your intuition. If possible, explain to others in your group why not to speak about your desires and plans to others outside of the group. And between yourselves, stay focussed on all that you have to do rather than speaking and speaking about how wonderful it will be and how certain you are of its success. Keeping quiet is not about not having positive expectations. It is about the conservation of energy, and more specifically the conservation and best utilisation of the energy required for creation rather than talking and talking and talking some more, which is akin to tempting fate.

How to 'Un-Tempt Fate'

Chances are that reading this article has reminded you of a few times that you wished you had not 'tempted fate' by verbalising your expectation too soon. This may even be a desire you are consciously creating right now. Do you still want it today? If your answer is yes and nothing has happened to change what you deem possible then this powerful technique will 'unfreeze' it. Remember that when visualizing you do not have to literally see an image, as some people struggle with mental vision. It's more than enough to feel what you're visualizing—it's the feeling that counts.

The Conscious Creation Re-Start Technique

In a relaxed position and with your eyes closed, use your imagination to visualize your 'frozen' desire as a dark, inactive, small ball of energy stuck somewhere between your Mental and Physical Planes. Imagine all its energy dispersed outside of it without judging it. Next, imagine this dispersed energy being pulled back into the ball. See the ball becoming re-activated. See it becoming larger and larger and lighting up as the dispersed energy is re-concentrated within it. And feel the joy of seeing your desire come back to life. Keep in mind not to try to force the energy back into the ball. As always, relax!

You will feel a calm sense of completion once the original energy is back within the ball. At this point, you know the creation process has been re-activated and that your already-existing desired outcome is as if 'on the move again' towards you in the Physical Plane. Finally, let it go, detach from the outcome and, most importantly, tell no one this time—just get on with your life and stop tempting fate. If this technique does not seem to evoke a sense of your desire being created again in the present moment, you can of course always start visualizing your desire or use any of the manifesting techniques from the very beginning as you would for any desire. And then go, and tell no man!


In a nutshell, what most people believe is tempting fate is nothing more than an interruption of the creation process. While thought, and hence thinking and imagining belong to the Mental Plane; speech, and so verbalising your desire, belongs to the Physical Plane. Speaking about your desire, expectation or idea too soon brings it into the physical world before it has had the time to fully form in the Mental Plane and hence fails to physically manifest. This necessary incubation period that we experience as time, is seen throughout nature. Give your desires and expectations the time to physically materialise before speaking about them. Trust your intuition and when in doubt about what to say, just keep quiet. To not tempt fate, "go and tell no man".

Written by Tania Kotsos
Date Published: 8 December 2010
Last Updated: 12 December 2021


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